One day, my husband told me some stories about his family relatives. I was a little surprised but more concerned about some people attempting to commit suicide, my husband’s other uncle committed suicide so long time ago when he was young child, he did not remember how his uncle did this. I had some friends who committed suicide in my High School. And my former husband attempted to commit suicide because he was extremely depressed in the result of losing his joint custody of my son and the divorce. However, that was not my intention to go ahead with the divorce process. He made his decision to file the divorce me by himself. It seemed that he blamed himself for the divorce and the child’s custody. He was tired of paying the the child support, he thought that abandoning my son was the only way to stop paying the child support. Sadly, he felt deeply guilty. One late night, my former husband’s friends texted me about his attempt to suicide, they wanted me to come approach him. Before I was about to leave home, I realized that I had two sons sleeping and I could not leave them unsupervised at home. My choice was to stay home with my two small boys. I could not able to help him since he hurt me emotionally and physically before. A big question was that – was I blamed for that happened to my former husband? No, I did not blame myself for his problem. I was supposed to call the police but his friends stopped me to call the police, they were chicken out that calling the police might not be comfortable. And then, his friends came to stop him quickly before he tried to kill himself and they made him more comfortable for a while. I was relieved that his friends came to rescue him on time and helped him though tough times.
Every day, I watch the local news about suicidal persons including ISIS people suicidal. I do not understand why people in the world want to commit suicide, it is hard time to figure out how this suicidal person behaves. All of us are not blamed for that happen, yet I feel that all people including me and you need to check in with suicidal person before he or she does this. Everyone is partly responsible to notice the warning signs of suicidal person and we must make an emergency call quickly to check on the suicidal person.
12 Warning Signs of Suicidal Person
- Posting the Facebook / Instagram / Twitter status about killing oneself or death.
- Writing the notebook about killing oneself or death.
- Drawing about the death.
- Looking for some ways to kill oneself such as purchasing gun, knife, or ropes.
- Complaining about negative feelings such as painful emotions.
- Getting drugs & alcoholics.
- Oversleeping too long time.
- Lock oneself up in his/her room and hide too long time.
- Feeling insecure or lonely.
- Feeling inattentive or disconnected from his family relatives or friends.
- Texting someone about planning to kill oneself.
- Visiting people or calling them by saying “Good-bye”.
How To Help Suicidal Person
- Call the police to check on him or her. (Be sure that he or she doesn’t need to be locked up)*
- Get someone who is very close to her / him.
- Visit him / her to keep company and open communication.
- Bring him / her to the emergency room for help.
- Check the social media status where he or she posts very often.
- Call a suicidal person to see if he / she would like to go hang out.
- Ask the church pastor to come visit.
- Encourage him or her to join the sports club or social club such as prayer group, 12-Step AA group, book club, or other groups.
Have you noticed any warning signs of that suicidal person? How would you help him or her to stop killing oneself?