One of the most worst conversations that parents have with their teens is about sex. This have never been so easy for both parents and their teens. But, parents do not know how to get the conversation started with their teens.
As a Mother, I have two teenage sons. I feel that it’s time to start converse with them because they need to know about sex. I am a Christian and my two sons are also Christians. One of my sons told me that sex from outside of the marriage was practically okay. I disagreed with that, because I told him simply that it is not okay to have sex from outside of the marriage because it’s kind of sin and it’s against God’s Word. However, I do not want to give my two teen sons hard time because I do not want to be strictly preach heavily. If I preach them strictly, they can easily turn off our conversation about sex. More importantly, you show that you are willing to listen and answer what your teen wants to know the questions. Sex out of marriage is adultery (Hebrews 13:4), and God will judge all of us according to our sins. However, if we confess our sins, Jesus has already paid the price. It’s important to stand firm and know the facts as well. Use examples like STD’s and unwanted pregnancies as natural consequences for not following God’s law of practicing safe sex withing marriage. Sex is designed to be one man and woman within one marriage. If two people only have one partner, there is less chance for infection and unwanted consequences.
4 Tips To Talk With Your Teen About Sex
- Do not preach HEAVILY. Some Christian parents are now preaching their teens heavily with many biblical verses. It sounds very pressuring and overwhelming for teens. I am sure that some teens may not listen to what parents preach. I understand that parents are too worried that their teens may be deeply curious what to feel like that while having sex. You are the one who worry about that, too. You are not alone. Importantly, you need to trust the Lord. He will help you get conversation started with your teen about sex. He can give you better wisdom what to talk about sex. Don’t make your teen feeling pressured.
- Teens asking questions must be kept open. Teens have the right to know about sex. They want to know what to do with sex, it is okay to talk about sex when your teen is curious. Since you are parent of teen, you do your best to answer these questions for teens. You do not have to give lecture more deeply about sex. If you shut this topic off, how could your teen get some information from you, even though you are a parent? You know, sex education from schools are not very great because some teachers are not providing some information about safe sex. They are openly encouraging same sex relationships and intercourse as well, which is a sin according the bible.
- Be emotionally patient, comfortable, and understanding. Some Christian parents are upset that their teens lost their virginity because they are physically and emotionally curious or pressured by peers. Some parents feel a sense of failure because they did not have any chances to talk with their teens about sex. Nothing feels so shameful as to open this subject with teens. If that happens, the important thing is that you love your teen and you forgive him or her for that happening. Nobody’s perfect. We all are sinners here. Remember that the Lord is right here next to you.
- Provide the biblical resources. Since you are a Christian parent of a teen, you are responsible to teach your teen about sex and God’s Word. Your teen will understand why she or he needs to wait for the marriage because it’s God’s blessing.
I’ll give an encouraging note here – reading the bible and praying are the keys to live a life without sin. Nothing can strengthen your relationship with the Father. Without Jesus in your heart, you will never have peace.